5 Signs of Abuse To Look For
One in four women aged 18 and older in the U.S. have been the victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime. Emotional abuse, a covert form of domestic violence, is even more rampant and corrodes self-esteem, self-worth, and independence. Domestic abuse occurs everywhere, regardless of age, race, education, or income. It can happen to anyone, and it’s important to be aware of the signs.
“Many women never tell anyone that they are being abused because they are embarrassed and ashamed or fearful of repercussions,” says candid abuse survivor and author Rosemary Lombardy. “It is not always possible to know, but there are telltale signs that may indicate that abuse is going on.”
Lombardy is author of the new book, Breaking Bonds: How to Divorce an Abuser and Heal - A Survival Guide . She has advice for women to end any relationship successfully – mentally and financially. Her goal is to offer a comprehensive plan to foster self-awareness, self-responsibility, empowerment, and critical thinking so that women can break the cycle of abuse and truly heal to transform their lives.
She is sharing 5 signs your loved one is in an abusive relationship .
Changed behavior or demeanor. This person used to be happy, friendly, and confident, but is now apathetic, withdrawn, anxious, jumpy, apologetic, secretive, or fearful. She exhibits low self-esteem, doesn’t trust her own judgment, or is depressed.
Negative coping behavior. Excessive drinking, drug use, overeating, overconsumption of caffeine or sugar, or frequent shopping sprees are common coping mechanisms used by abuse victims.
Excessive contact and control. Her abuser texts or calls her frequently when she is in the company of others to see what she is doing and who she is with, keeping her on a very short leash. She answers his every call or text.
Isolating behavior. She no longer spends time with friends or family because of the controlling demands of her partner, who deliberately isolates her from needed support. She relents to please him and avoid conflict.
Unexplained bruises or accidents. The victim covers up her bruises with makeup or clothing and will make up excuses if she is confronted with suspicions because she is afraid and mortified.
While it’s Women’s History Month and we’re highlighting warning signs for our female readers, it’s important to note that men can also be victims of abuse. Everyone is encouraged to reach out and seek assistance. If you are currently experiencing abuse, you are not alone and help is available.
National Domestic Violence Hotline
1−800−799−7233 or TTY 1−800−787−3224
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